Search blog.co.uk

The Non-Trying , Sighing Game

by SloshedAndVexed @ 2008-05-05 - 00:45:01

I went to the local library's monthly booksale , fill a bag for £1.50 , or is it £2 now , in any case it's well worth it , I came back with some good reference books , including about DIY and gardening , and the 2003 'rough guide's' to New Zealand and Switzerland , and the 2006 DK guide to New York , which I'd still love to visit though I  may not , some novels that my Mum might like to read , and  'The Mars Mysteries' by Graham Hancock , Robert Bauval and John Grigsby which is probably a good read however implausible , and a book about how to find and form relationships with compatable women , written by a man , who states that male fear and low self esteem are 'qualities' which women find " grossly unattractive " .
A bit of a rash generalisation though something in that I suspect .
My self esteem is'nt too bad but I tend to initially lack social confidence with people I do'nt know , and , yes I would much prefer to be with a lovely woman partner than home alone , especially in the evenings and through the night , but changing my life in that way  seems challengingly  risky though I know I should at least make more of an effort to chat with people who I meet ,  to smile and establish eye contact , and not to maintain some stupidly defeatist approach to life , for the sake of the present and future  of my ageing self , and because I have so much that's positive to give .
I'd  no doubt have dozens of girlfriends if I were a loud , brash , 'hard bastard' , but I have no wish whatever to be or  pretend to be that  .

6 comments | Trackback (0) | Permalink | Recommend this post
Tags: books, gender, relationships, travel,

Trackback address for this post:

authimage

Comments, Trackbacks: Hide subcomments

Ellen123Ellen123 [Member]
2008-05-05 @ 17:01

There is absolutely no necessity or point in being anything but yourself!
I can confirm that the statement about women disliking male fear and under confidence IS INDEED a gross generalisation!
Some women rather like under confidence. Some women also dislike men who swagger!
Let's concentrate on the positives. The first being that you are true to yourself.

| Show subcomments
SloshedAndVexedSloshedAndVexed pro
2008-05-05 @ 21:51

That's very true Ellen , Thanks for that ! , - Martin .
-x-

|
FrkennyFrkenny pro
http://www.staugustinesdumbarton.co.uk
2008-05-05 @ 22:47

Yep! Be true to yourself, Martin! My own rxperience is that some woman would like a man to mother, but they are often the sort to be avoided! I'm no expert in relationships, though, as I tend to press the self destruct button when things are going well. bust just be you. there's someone out there who will love you just as you are! I've come to know you as a kind caring guy. There's not a glut of them around, you know.

| Show subcomments
SloshedAndVexedSloshedAndVexed pro
2008-05-05 @ 23:40

Hi , Thanks Kenny , I appreciate that , it's strange how one can come to feel a 'connection' with certain friends on this site , with kindest regards , ~ Martin .

|
ColoursColours [Member]
2008-05-05 @ 23:40

Be yourself if others cant see you for who you are then they are the one's missing out :-)

| Show subcomments
SloshedAndVexedSloshedAndVexed pro
2008-05-06 @ 00:09

Yes ! Thank You ! , Glad to have you 'on board ' , - Martin

|

Leave a comment :

Your email address will not be displayed on this site.
Your URL will be displayed.
Allowed XHTML tags: <!, p, ul, ol, li, dl, dt, dd, address, blockquote, ins, del, a, span, bdo, br, em, strong, dfn, code, samp, kdb, var, cite, abbr, acronym, q, sub, sup, tt, i, b, big, small, img>
URLs, email, AIM and ICQs will be converted automatically.
Options:
 
(Line breaks become <br />)
(Set cookies for name, email & url)
Validation code:
Please enter the above code here:
For protection from spambots (case-sensitive).